Recently, I said something like this to my 13-year-old son: “I've told you a thousand times, just do your work and we can stop fighting. Why don't you just listen to me? I hate having to shout to get you to pay attention.”
Creating a peaceful relationship with our children is a huge test of emotional intelligence-and particularly empathy. In the above example, there are a number of emotional intelligence failures. I was angry, so I was reacting unconsciously instead of responding intentionally. Under my anger was a feeling of powerlessness and fear. I was scared that he is not self-motivated and won't do well. I reacted to the fear by attacking. I was trying to use my force of will to make him obey.
The first rule of emotional intelligence: When people feel pushed, they resist. I was blaming him, interpreting his lack of interest in homework as a kind of personal attack on me and implying that he was making me behave the way that I behaved. I was focused on what I wanted and my perspective.
I'd like to focus on this last point, because it turns out that this lack of perspective-taking—this lack of empathy—is the key to easing parent-child tension.
When I increase empathy and relook at the situation with compassion, I see a different story. Perhaps he was afraid, too. Perhaps he felt powerless, too. Perhaps he's learned the exact same pattern I've modeled: When you're afraid, attack.
That moment of curiosity is the doorway to empathy, and it's a game changer. Empathy is not actually a complex skill. It's a basic part of the social brain. That little pause of curiosity is a way to step out of the stress reaction, and step into being the person we choose to be.
Hopefully, I'll remember to take that all-important pause and ask myself :I wonder what's really going on for him right now.
1.What phenomenon is described in paragraph 1?
A.The parent-child tension. B.The poor emotional intelligence of parents.
C.The peaceful communication. D.The silent resistance from children.
2.What emotional intelligence failures did the writer make in the relationship with his/her son?
A.Lacking a sense of fear. B.Forcing his/her son to give in.
C.Making personal attacks. D.Making intentional responses quickly.
3.What's the best title for the text?
A.Parent-Child Conflicts B.The Test of Emotional Intelligence
C.The Doorway to Empathy D.The Key to Easing Parent-Child Tension
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Every year, countless individuals are impacted by cancer. Our goal is to walk away from cancer as we give strength to those fighting this life-threatening disease. Walk Cancer Away invites everyone to participate in our annual family friendly walk event and join together to share the strong will power found inside each of us with those around us. With each step we take, with each story shared, and with each donation made we are one step closer to finding a cure. To date, we have raised over$700,000 for Dr. Nancy Kemeny's Colorectal Research Fund at Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center(MSKCC), together with thousands of people supporting this cause over the last 12 years we are committed to.
Walk Cancer Away began as a walk in honor of James N. Rentas. Deeply influenced by his loss due to colorectal cancer, the Rentas family came together 12 years ago to help others who are suffering the disease. Dr. Nancy Kemeny at Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center, who was the doctor treating James N. Rentas, mirrors that same goal. Her efforts and that of her team at MSKCC are focused on researching to overcome the disease and find a cure.
Together they have made great advancements over the years and have provided years of life for those facing the disease. In many cases, their continued efforts have led to full relief of the cancer in patients. With the deepest gratitude we are thankful to all those who support and participate in the event each year, because without you this would not be possible.
Although Walk Cancer Away started just 12 years ago, we are forever honored to be able to join in this event that so many of us find so close to our hearts. We ask you, your family, and your friends to join in this year's Walk Cancer Away Event.
1.What does Walk Cancer Away intend to do?
A.To contact those suffering from cancer. B.To give strength to cancer patients' family.
C.To help find a way to defeat cancer. D.To share experiences from cancer victims.
2.According to paragraph 2, James N. Rentas
A.lost his family B.died of cancer
C.did research on cancer D.founded Walk Cancer Away
3.Why does the author make this speech?
A.To call on people to join in the activity. B.To raise money for cancer research.
C.To express thanks to all the participants. D.To introduce the history of an event.
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Sea urchins (海胆) are small creatures, but what’s really remarkable about them is that they eat anything that happens to float by. They have really sharp teeth they use to rid rocks of algae (海澡), which makes them pretty valuable especially in places like Hawaii where algae are threatening the coral reefs. In the summer of 2019, 500,000 of them were used to deal with the algae.
The problem started when non-native algae were introduced to the ecosystem of Kane’ohe Bay in the 1970s. Because they had no enemies, they ended up taking over the bay, according to the National Marine Fisheries Service (NMFS). The algae blocked sunlight from reaching the coral, which in turn affected the local fish because they changed the chemistry of the water.
That's when the NMFS turned to sea urchins that loved to devour the algae. But they had to grow to the size of a cherry tomato before they could be used. Since 2011, sea urchins have been grown and used to handle the algae problem. Some of the funds are available due to an unfortunate incident.
In 2005, a ship was grounded on a shallow reef near Kane’ohe Bay. When the ship was removed, 20 acres of reefs have been damaged. When there is environmental damage, the NMFS and other agencies receive funds from the wrongdoers and the funds are used to restore the damage. Some funds were spent on other projects like the sea urchins.When they are large enough, divers carefully place them on the reef.
Algae isn’t the only thing that threatens the coral reefs. Climate change and the effects of fishing and tourism in the area also endanger the coral reefs. But turning to sea urchins instead of man-made solutions seems like the best way to go.
1.Why are sea urchins regarded as outstanding creatures?
A.They are tiny but have teeth. B.They can keep the ocean clean.
C.They are useful in removing algae. D.They grow on coral reefs with algae.
2.What happened after non-native algae arrived at Kane’ohe Bay?
A.They helped the coral reefs to survive. B.They spread to every corner of the bay.
C.They didn’t fit in with the new surroundings. D.They fought against other species to get food.
3.What does the underlined word “devour” in paragraph 3 mean?
A.Eat. B.Block. C.Tease. D.Attract.
4.What does the author suggest doing to save coral reefs?
A.Relying on humans’ solutions. B.Banning fishing and tourism.
C.Employing divers to handle algae. D.Letting nature take care of nature.
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Facts about fevers
You wake up one morning, and your head feels like burning. Right away, you think, “Oh, no! I have a fever!” However, when you take your temperature, you see that it's only 37.2.1. Or, do you? From the standards in use for a long time, a fever starts at 38. Some doctors now don't agree with that, though. 2.It's the same for normal body temperatures.
They argue that everyone's normal body temperature isn't 37℃. It's 36.6 to 38℃ for kids and 36.1 to 37.2℃ for adults.3. Besides, people's body temperatures don't stay the same all the time.
When your body temperature is around 38℃, you have a fever.4.Fevers show that the body is doing its job. It's fighting the bad viruses and bacteria in your body. The body attacks them by turning up the heat. That way, it's harder for the viruses and bacteria to make copies of themselves. When their numbers decrease, the fever does, too.
5.So, let them do their jobs and don't treat them. Instead, try to find the cause and treat that. If the fever reaches 39.4C or higher, call your doctor. Do the same if the fever lasts longer than three days. Fevers fight to protect us, so they're our friends, not our enemies.
A.It means you have a fever.
B.Mild fevers don't last long.
C.So, you don't have a fever.
D.Fever does great harm to your body.
E.Women also have a higher number than men.
F.Many people think it's a bad thing, but it's not.
G.They feel our ideas about fevers are wrong and too old.
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Everyone wants to find happiness in life. No matter what our circumstances are,the search for true contentment is at the _______of everyone's goals.
The question, then, is how? How are we _______to even begin looking for it? A group of people gathered in a room_________a seminar about life and happiness to learn to find happiness in their _______. They were being _______various skills and lessons about life. Suddenly, the speaker _______and started giving each person a balloon. He asked everyone to write their _______ on it using a pen. All the balloons were then _______and taken to another room.
Now, these delegates were let in that room and asked to find the balloon which had their name _______, within 5 minutes. Everyone was________searching for their name, pushing, crashing with each other, and there was a ________. No one could find their ________within the given five-minute time and they all had to return to the other room with their hands __________.
Then they were told to go to the other room and randomly choose a balloon and give it to the________whose name was written on it. Within five minutes everyone was ____________ the balloon with their name on it.
The speaker began: This is__________happening in our lives. Everyone is hurriedly looking for happiness all around, not knowing ________it is. Our happiness ________the happiness of other people. Give them their happiness, you will get your ________happiness. And this is the ________of human life.
1.A.bottom B.heart C.draft D.distance
2.A.forced B.used C.supposed D.aimed
3.A.attending B.attempting C.accompanying D.abusing
4.A.contributions B.lectures C.trips D.lives
5.A.appointed B.taught C.guaranteed D.adjusted
6.A.continued B.urged C.stopped D.resigned
7.A.names B.addresses C.ideas D.essays
8.A.separated B.exchanged C.divided D.collected
9.A.announced B.declared C.recommended D.written
10.A.eventually B.steadily C.wildly D.flexibly
11.A.mess B.potential C.threat D.disability
12.A.rooms B.balloons C.exits D.sections
13.A.full B.blank C.empty D.dirty
14.A.teacher B.speaker C.person D.agent
15.A.pumping B.choosing C.distributing D.carrying
16.A.simply B.exactly C.automatically D.nearly
17.A.where B.who C.what D.which
18.A.results in B.decides on C.dates from D.lies in
19.A.temporary B.own C.annual D.awful
20.A.purpose B.consequence C.search D.existence
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假定你是李华，你班来自英国的交换生Jack 上周回到中国，现处于隔离期，请给他发封邮件，建议他调整好心情，做好返校准备，内容包括：1.表示关心；2.提出建议；3.期待重逢。
注意：1.词数80左右；
2.可适当增加细节，以使行文连贯。
参考词汇：隔离期 quarantine
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阅读下面短文，根据其内容写一篇60词左右的内容概要。
Eighty-five percent of the jobs that today's students will do in 2030 don't exist yet,the Institute for the Future has predicted.That might seem like a high number to reach in only 10 years.But think about the non-mainstream careers that did not exist just a handful of years ago: social media manager,app developer and cloud computing engineer,etc.What role should colleges and universities play in preparing students for a workplace that is constantly changing? Educational institutions are trying to answer that question."We hope they will not only be prepared for whatever the job market looks like in 10,20 or 50 years but be the ones shaping it," said Jenn Stringer,professor at the University of Californian,Berkeley.Here are some of the approaches they're taking.
Some experts argue that the four-year learning model needs to be rethought in a big way. They say education can no longer be seen as something that stops when a person graduates from college.If students could take a year or two off school,get a job,and then return to school a few years later,the education system would offer true life-long learning and better adapt to changing technology.
Fewer employers are willing to train people on the job than the employers 50 years ago, largely as part of an effort to cut costs.To fill the job skills gap,some courses are offered as an add-on to a student's main degree.For example,the courses may include data analysis,web design and digital marketing.The goal is to offer students,a degree aside,some advantages when they seek jobs or promotions in the future.
Other institutions are trying to imitate the workplace within the traditional classroom. Several colleges have partnered with private companies,such as the software company Adobe, to integrate their products into the classroom.Professors at schools who partner with the company are encouraged to use the product for assignments.The idea is that students learn how to create a project that can be used in the real world and the"soft skills"such as teamwork and creativity.
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