My younger daughter, age 5, made a failed att...

My younger daughter, age 5, made a failed attempt during a recent school-night bedtime routine. In retaliation (报复) for my insistence that she actually stay in bed, she uttered the classic pint-sized revolutionary cry: ''You're not in charge of me! ''

''I am, actually, '' I replied as I gently guided her back into bed. ''I am in charge of keeping you safe and also helping you thrive (茁壮成长), which means making sure you get a good night's sleep and a whole lot more. ''

I knew what I meant by ''more'' even if she didn't. I made a personal, unwritten covenant (契约) with my daughters, and even society, to do my part to raise two happy, virtuous, inspirational adults. And that requires teaching a good deal of life wisdom, role modeling and, at times, imposing behavior.

We are the boss. We can also be our kids' friend, sometimes. And we are always their teacher and coach. And don't forget lifeguard.

But we're in charge, even if we don't want to be. And it seems a lot of parents don't want to be.

I've noticed that for various reasons (trying to be cool/nice/laid back, maybe laziness, maybe in opposition to being raised with too many rules themselves) , many parents let their children call too many shots. I'm talking about screen time, bedtime, purchases, meal options and all the rest of it.

Letting kids decide these matters usually leads to poor outcomes for the kids themselves. A permissive parenting style leads to impulsive behavior, egocentrism (唯我主义) and poor social skills, according to Diana Baumrind, a developmental psychologist at the University of California, Berkeley.

Baumrind, one of the leading researchers on this topic, described the ideal parenting style as ''authoritative, '' neither too permissive nor too controlling. An authoritative parent has clear rules and high expectations while being warm and supportive and valuing in dependence. If we can do that for our children, her research showed, they will have greater self-esteem, social skills and academic performance.

The ideal, in other words, is a Buddhist Middle Way where we are in control but foster (培养) independence.

But independence is not the same as giving them what their little id (本我) brains want all the time. Children may seem happy about getting their way, but it's actually an insecure world for them to inhabit where adults don't seem fully in charge.

Young kids' brains are not up to the task of making the best decisions anyway. From age 2 until 7, according to the pioneering child developmental psychologist Jean Piaget, a child naturally engages in egocentrism and ''magical thinking''—believing that they can affect the world with their thoughts—but not critical thinking. From about age 8 to 11, kids tend to actively seek rules, limits and boundaries―but from parents and teachers, not from themselves; they want adults to draw the lines they can safely color in.

Typically, after age 11, critical thinking emerges. Real involvement in rules and limits can effectively begin then, but even teenagers need the assurance that you will always steer them in the right directions.

We also know that real life is full of rules—legal, societal, ethical (moral) or just politeness—and either we teach them or they will eventually be set straight in less-loving environments such as the playground, the principal's office, in front of a judge or in a professional boss’ office.

And being in charge doesn't mean we need to micromanage behavior or be unkind. We should build in plenty of personal freedom and remain motivated by deep love and affection. But we must also be on top it, guiding them toward success.

Be a great boss to your kids. Mentor them. Give them opportunities to develop and shine. Always have their backs. Never fire them. Show them who's boss in the most caring of ways.

1.Many parents let their children call too many shots probably because ________.

A.they are cool and indifferent to their children

B.they want children to live with fewer rules

C.they are busy with meal options and so on

D.they believe it will lead to good outcomes

2.The psychologist Baumrind believes that ________.

A.children are definitely to be ruined by permissive parenting style

B.rules are absolutely prior to anything in authoritative parenting

C.authoritative parents have to let children live independently

D.an ideal way means giving children-controlled independence

3.From age 2 to 11, children usually ________.

A.do not have the ability to make decisions yet

B.have no idea of rules, limits or boundaries at all

C.need parents and teachers to draw lines for them

D.know how to steer themselves in right directions

4.To be a great boss to his/her children, a parent needs to ________.

A.micromanage everything or be unkind sometimes

B.guide children to success on the basis of deep love

C.win as many opportunities as possible to shine

D.let children know ''who is the boss'' in every way

5.What is the author's attitude towards parent's being in charge of children?

A.Supportive. B.Critical.

C.Ambiguous. D.Indifferent.

6.What can we learn from this passage?

A.Ideal parents arc those neither too permissive nor too controlling.

B.Children under age 11 should not be allowed to make decisions.

C.Psychologists show children's self-esteem is from independence.

D.Adults are responsible to teach children all the rules in real life.

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Yesterday，I drove my 23-year-old daughter to the nearby counseling center，to attempt once again to complete the treatment. I did my best to encourage and give her inspiring support as she was feeling anxious of the whole process.

While we were waiting，just minutes before the center opened their door，a young girl the same age as my daughter，came in. She had a beautiful smile I remember，and spoke of her desire to make a difference for others like my daughter from a11 she learned through her past drug abuse. I felt that she was sincere in her desire. It had been two weeks since her stopping the use of drugs.

My daughter was standing next to me and focused on doing her best to stay calm on the outside，while inside she was feeling quite anxious，so she barely noticed what this girl was saying. Yet，she did manage to open up and talk with her a bit about the noisy ceiling fan in the hall where we were waiting.

Next Friday，it will be a new opportunity for my daughter to try once again，as well as the　 possibility of being there for this young girl，too. I continue the example ot sell-love for my daughter，strengthening this skill，while encouraging my daughter’s positive changes.

I noticed yesterday，my daughter called her friends，“I am a strong woman!”This made me smile，as a sudden gift to me from when I had been speaking to her enthusiastically about how we are strong women，trying our best，and we overcome and win through our life challenges. Let her know I believe in her. While she was focused on the physical，in that moment，I think she was likely feeling strength in all ways，too. I hope so.

1.What was the problem with the author’s daughter?

A.She was seriously i11.

B.She lost bravery to face life.

C.She had to receive an operation.

D.She was suffering from drugs.

2.What did the author’s daughter talk about with the young girl?

A.The room facility.

B.The anxiety of treatment.

C.The crowded waiting hall.

D.The noisy patients around.

3.What do we know about the author’s daughter from the last paragraph?

A.She made friends with the girl.

B.She was cured completely.

C.She regained confidence.

D.She respected her mother.

4.What may be the best title for the text?

A.We’re Enough，Waiting For Challenges

B.We’re The World，Winning The Future

C.We’re Strong Women，Trying Our Best

D.We’re On The Hard Way，Lacking Self-Love

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(2013·四川省泸州市4月模拟)There was no signal in that faraway village and all my attempts ________ you failed.

A．to contact　 　　　　　　　　　　　　　　 B．contacting

C．contacted　 　　　　　　　　　　　　　　 D．having contacted

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As a boy I was always small for my age. I was also five years younger than one of my brothers and seven years younger than the other. As a result I often felt left out when their friends came over to play. I was either too small or too young for whatever they were doing and they didn't want their younger brother listening in on their conversations either. More often than not I found myself outside playing alone and feeling forgotten.

I remember one spring afternoon feeling especially lonely as I sat in the yard behind our house. We lived miles from town and I rarely saw my own friends outside of school. I heard my brothers laughing from inside the house and felt a single tear coming down my cheek. At that moment I saw a large brown dog walking over to me. He looked happy and his tail was wagging as well. Even though he didn't know me he greeted me like a long lost friend, licking my chin and sitting beside me on the spring grass. It must have been at least an hour that I petted and talked to this four-legged angel. He let me pour out all my troubles and share my deepest thoughts before he kissed my cheek goodbye and ambled off either to Heaven or his home. I went back inside feeling happy, knowing that no matter what life may hold I was loved. Now over 40 years later I still remember that angel with a smile.

I believe that God sent him in that moment of sadness to remind me just how much he loved me. There is nothing more important than knowing we are loved. When we are loved, we will learn to love others. Learning to love helps us to understand ourselves and other people better.

1.How did the writer feel when his brothers’ friends came?

A. Proud.　　 B. Lonely.　 C. Worried.　　 D. Happy.

2.The writer shared his troubles and thoughts with the dog because ______.

it was his friend

B. it could understand him

C. it was friendly to him　

D. it looked like an angel

3.From Paragraph 2, we can learn that ______.

A. the boy met a long lost friend

B. the boy had no friends at school

C. the dog helped the boy realize that he was loved

D. the dog spent the afternoon with the boy and his brothers

4.The author wrote the story to______.

A. encourage people to talk about their troubles

B. tell people they should treat animals friendly

C. share his unforgettable experience with us

D. show knowing you are loved is the most important

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We made a quick stop at the grocery store to pick up cupcakes for my daughter Norah’s fourth birthday. As an older gentleman walked by， Norah　 __________and waved， "Hi old person!

It’s my birthday today!" I apologized to him embarrassedly for her　 __________.

"Hello little lady! And how old are you today?" he asked. They　 _________ for a couple of minutes， with Norah　 __________him in on the details of her birthday， and we went our　 _________ways. But a few minutes later， Norah　 _________she really wanted a　 __________with him. Uh， my cutest baby!

We back found him at the　 __________. "Excuse me， sir? She’d like to know if you’d take a photo with her，" I asked，　 _________the man to be annoyed at my daughter’s strange request.　 _________， I got the completely opposite response!

He looked　 _________. "A photo? With me?" So they posed together and then they　 _______ each other like they were long lost friends. The precious scene　 _________other shoppers， but no one cared.

We　 _________ Mr. Dan (I knew his name later on) for his　 __________. His eyes filled with tears and he said， "No， thank YOU. It is YOU who made me　 __________ ."

Now， Norah and Mr. Dan are more than just friends. We make　 __________ visits to see him because she worries about his being　 _________. Mr. Dan says that his friendship with Norah helped to　 _________his broken heart for his wife’s sudden death.

Sometimes talking to　 __________ turns into the most beautiful thing in the world.

1.A. communicated　　 B. responded　　 C. smiled　　 D. escaped

2.A. noise　　 B. sorrow　　 C. interruption　　 D. impoliteness

3.A. chatted　　 B. stood　　 C. waited　　 D. discussed

4.A. dropping　　 B. filling　　 C. calling　　 D. putting

5.A. separate　　 B. narrow　　 C. long　　 D. crowded

6.A. reminded　　 B. predicted　　 C. decided　　 D. remembered

7.A. talk　　 B. reunion　　 C. moment　　 D. picture

8.A. street　　 B. store　　 C. restaurant　　 D. community

9.A. expecting　　 B. allowing　　 C. requiring　　 D. causing

10.A. Lastly　　 B. Besides　　 C. Instead　　 D. Suddenly

11.A. annoyed　　 B. delighted　　 C. disappointed　　 D. prepared

12.A. greeted　　 B. hugged　　 C. supported　　 D. encouraged

13.A. educated　　 B. attracted　　 C. delayed　　 D. blocked

14.A. memorized　　 B. paid　　 C. thanked　　 D. excited

15.A. time　　 B. permission　　 C. friendship　　 D. experience

16.A. cheer up　　 B. get along　　 C. take off　　 D. hold on

17.A. special　　 B. new　　 C. quick　　 D. regular

18.A. tired　　 B. busy　　 C. lonely　　 D. ill

19.A. attend　　 B. sew　　 C. open　　 D. touch

20.A. shoppers　　 B. friends　　 C. passengers　　 D. strangers

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At the bottom of her bed _______ many decorations that my daughter made for the coming new year.

A. hangs　　             B. hang　　             C. is hung　　             D. are hung

高三英语单项填空中等难度题查看答案及解析

At the bottom of her bed _______ many decorations that my daughter made for the coming new year.

A. hangs                            B. hang                              C. is hung                           D. are hung

高三英语单项填空中等难度题查看答案及解析

________taller of the two girls is my daughter who was made ________monitor yesterday.

A．The；the　                 B．The；/　　         C．A；a　　             D．A；/

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My first job was working for a women’s clothes manufacturer at the age of 15. It made me realize what I didn’t want to do for my future employment.

The only advantage of this job was receiving a wage at the end of the week and sometimes getting clothes for free if they were to my taste. I carried on doing this for only a year, as my studies at school were getting more serious and I wanted to study more to get the right grades.

After I had finished college, my first real job was working for a play publisher in central London. I remember writing a letter of application for the post of administration for Samuel French Limited. I had put so much effort into writing it, not realizing that this would be my first step in the process of finding out what I really wanted to do for my future employment. I didn’t think I would get the job, but as it turned out, I got a telephone call quickly and started a week later. I remember being excited that I would be working for a publisher in London. Although I had thought I would prefer to work for a book publisher, a play publisher was just as enjoyable.

Looking back now, not all first jobs turn out to be enjoyable. Some of my friends worked in supermarkets while they were at college just to earn a bit of money. I remember thinking how much happier I felt working in a clothes factory than in a supermarket.

Years later, I can see how good it is to experience work at an early age, as it gives people the opportunity to decide what kind of career will be most suitable for them one day. The boring task of a job will make a person want to pursue an education to get into the right type of employment, which was what I had realized in the end.

1.The author did her first job for only a year because _______.

A.the clothes made there didn’t suit her taste

B.she really didn’t like such a boring job

C.she wanted to get the right grades at school

D.she didn’t get well paid at the end of the week

2.What can we learn about the author in the third paragraph?

A.She was confident that she could get the first job.

B.She telephoned Samuel French Limited for a post.

C.She was aware of the importance of writing the application letter.

D.She used to think she would prefer to work for a book publisher.

3.It could be inferred from the text that the author _______.

A.took her first job in order to support her poor family

B.realized what her first job meant to her future employment

C.had a great interest in her first job in a clothes factory

D.thought her friends’ job in supermarkets was more interesting

4.What would be the best title for the text?

A.My Experience in a Clothes Factory

B.The Qualities of a Play Publisher

C.Importance of Early Work Experience

D.The Secrets to Get the Right Grades

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The younger daughter of former New York Mayor Richard White has moved her wedding from New Year’s Eve to this Thursday so her mother, who has been fighting against cancer for 11 years, can take part in the ceremony, a family spokesman said on Wednesday, Oct, 12, 2013. Elizabeth Lally White, who turns 28 on Thursday, will marry Sam Peterson in Spiaggia, a restaurant on North Michigan Avenue. The reception also will be held at the restaurant, which had been previously scheduled to host the couple’s engagement party on Thursday.

Lally White’s mother, Maggie, 68, was reported to have caught breast cancer in 2002. She had an operation in her leg in April and she was hospitalized twice in the weeks following the procedure for treatment of flu-like symptoms that doctors said were not related to the cancer. Maggie, who has used a walker or a wheelchair during most public appearances in recent years, is well beyond the average survival time for someone with breast cancer.

“As the mayor himself has said, she had a pretty difficult summer.” said Jacquelyn Heard, who served Mayor White’s press secretary for years and followed him to the same international law firm that he joined after leaving office in May. “She was not able to get around the way that she normally would do. This year, she has had quite a few setbacks and they’ve been pretty well documented. Lally White decided to reschedule the wedding so that her mom can participate in the festivities (庆祝活动).” Heard said. Lally White is a doctoral candidate at De-Paul University and plans to work with autistic (孤独症) children, and Sam Peterson works in insurance, Heard said.

Richard and Maggie White married in 1972 and had three children in addition to Lally — Nora, Patrick and Kevin. But Kevin was born with a disease and died in 1981 at 33 months.

1.When was Elizabeth Lally White born?

A. In 1983.　　　　　　　 B. In 1987.　　　　　　　 C. In 1985.　　　　　　　 D. In 1984.

2.What can we infer from Paragraph 2?

A. Maggie, 68, is recovering now.

B. Maggie caught breast cancer in 2002.

C. The cancer caused some flu-like symptoms on Maggie.

D. Average breast cancer patients lived a life shorter than Maggie.

3.Why did Lally White reschedule her wedding?

A. She was afraid that her mother couldn’t participate her wedding on New Year’s Eve.

B. She was eager to work with autistic children after wedding.

C. Her family will move out of New York.

D. Her mother will accept operation because of her disease.

4.How many children did the former mayor and his wife give birth to?

A. 3.　　　　　　　　　　 B. 4.　　　　　　　　　　　 C. 5.　　　　　　　　　　　 D. 6.

5.What does the passage mainly talk about?

A. The political life of former Mayor.

B. The brave wife of former Mayor.

C. The wedding of former Mayor’s daughter.

D. The family life of former Mayor.

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