When you’re a parent to a young child, you spend a lot of time talking about feelings: about having to share, about being disappointed because you may not have a cookie instead of broccoli (绿花椰菜), about the great injustice of a parent pressing the elevator button before the child has a chance to.
And in a parenting culture that’s increasingly concerned with centering children’s needs above all else, mothers and fathers have become skillful at talking about their kids’ feelings while masking their own. But new research suggests that parents who hide their negative emotions are doing their children, and themselves harm.
A study published this month says that when parents put on a faux-happy (假开心) face for their kids, they do damage to their own sense of wellbeing and authenticity.
“For the average parent the findings suggest when they attempt to hide their negative emotion expression and overexpress their positive emotions with their children, it actually comes at a cost: doing so may lead parents to feel worse themselves,” researcher Dr Emily Impett, says.
It makes sense that parents often fall back on amping up (扩大) the positivity for the sake of their children—there are a lot of things in the world we want to protect our kids from. But children are often smarter than we expect and are quite in tune with what the people closest to them—their parents—are feeling.
There was a time about a year or so ago, for example, when I received some bad news over the phone; I was home with my four-year-old and so I did my best to put on a brave face. She knew immediately something was wrong though, and was confused.
When I finally let a few tears out and explained that Mom heard something sad about a friend, she was, of course, just fine. My daughter patted my shoulder, gave me a hug, and went back to playing. She felt better that she was able to help me, and the moment made a lot more sense to her emotionally than a smiling mom holding back sobs. I was glad that I could feel sad momentarily and not have to work hard to hide that.
Relaying positive feelings to your children when you don’t feel them is a move the researchers called high cost — that it may seem like the most beneficial to your child at the time but that parents should find other ways of communicating emotions that “allow them to feel true to themselves”.
But this is also about children seeing the world in a more honest way. While we will want to protect our children from things that aren’t age-appropriate or harmful, it’s better to raise a generation of kids who understand that moms and dads are people too.
1.What is the typical behavior of parents when they bring up their children?
A. Allowing their children chances to do things themselves.
B. Expressing their dissatisfaction with their children.
C. Hiding their true emotions from their children.
D. Sharing their favorite food with their children.
2. If parents put on a faux-happy face, _______.
A. their children will be protected
B. their children will be taken in
C. they will feel happy as a result
D. they will undergo worse feelings
3.The author mentioned the example of her daughter to illustrate ______.
A. children are not so clever as parents think
B. children can often understand parents’ true feelings
C. it’s meaningful for parents to always look positive
D. it’s necessary to expose children to harmful things
4. We can conclude from the passage that _______.
A. protecting children from age-inappropriate things is important
B. it makes sense for children to know their parents’ negative feelings
C. children will admire their parents more because of being protected
D. separation from negative feelings helps children see the world honestly
高三英语阅读理解简单题
When you’re a parent to a young child, you spend a lot of time talking about feelings: about having to share, about being disappointed because you may not have a cookie instead of broccoli (绿花椰菜), about the great injustice of a parent pressing the elevator button before the child has a chance to.
And in a parenting culture that’s increasingly concerned with centering children’s needs above all else, mothers and fathers have become skillful at talking about their kids’ feelings while masking their own. But new research suggests that parents who hide their negative emotions are doing their children, and themselves harm.
A study published this month says that when parents put on a faux-happy (假开心) face for their kids, they do damage to their own sense of wellbeing and authenticity.
“For the average parent the findings suggest when they attempt to hide their negative emotion expression and overexpress their positive emotions with their children, it actually comes at a cost: doing so may lead parents to feel worse themselves,” researcher Dr Emily Impett, says.
It makes sense that parents often fall back on amping up (扩大) the positivity for the sake of their children—there are a lot of things in the world we want to protect our kids from. But children are often smarter than we expect and are quite in tune with what the people closest to them—their parents—are feeling.
There was a time about a year or so ago, for example, when I received some bad news over the phone; I was home with my four-year-old and so I did my best to put on a brave face. She knew immediately something was wrong though, and was confused.
When I finally let a few tears out and explained that Mom heard something sad about a friend, she was, of course, just fine. My daughter patted my shoulder, gave me a hug, and went back to playing. She felt better that she was able to help me, and the moment made a lot more sense to her emotionally than a smiling mom holding back sobs. I was glad that I could feel sad momentarily and not have to work hard to hide that.
Relaying positive feelings to your children when you don’t feel them is a move the researchers called high cost — that it may seem like the most beneficial to your child at the time but that parents should find other ways of communicating emotions that “allow them to feel true to themselves”.
But this is also about children seeing the world in a more honest way. While we will want to protect our children from things that aren’t age-appropriate or harmful, it’s better to raise a generation of kids who understand that moms and dads are people too.
1.What is the typical behavior of parents when they bring up their children?
A. Allowing their children chances to do things themselves.
B. Expressing their dissatisfaction with their children.
C. Hiding their true emotions from their children.
D. Sharing their favorite food with their children.
2. If parents put on a faux-happy face, _______.
A. their children will be protected
B. their children will be taken in
C. they will feel happy as a result
D. they will undergo worse feelings
3.The author mentioned the example of her daughter to illustrate ______.
A. children are not so clever as parents think
B. children can often understand parents’ true feelings
C. it’s meaningful for parents to always look positive
D. it’s necessary to expose children to harmful things
4. We can conclude from the passage that _______.
A. protecting children from age-inappropriate things is important
B. it makes sense for children to know their parents’ negative feelings
C. children will admire their parents more because of being protected
D. separation from negative feelings helps children see the world honestly
高三英语阅读理解简单题查看答案及解析
—Did you spend a lot of time looking for the missing child?
—________. It took us a long time, but luckily we found him.
A．My pleasure B．Absolutely C．Not at all D．Don’t mention it
高三英语单项填空简单题查看答案及解析
1. —Did you spend a lot of time looking for the lost child?
—________. It took us half a month, but luckily we found him.
A. My pleasure B. Absolutely
C. Not at all D. Don’t mention it
高三英语单项填空中等难度题查看答案及解析
There are hundreds of things that your parents controlled for you when you were a child. And it’s a good thing, too — kids need this kind of protection and assistance, because they aren’t mature enough to take care of themselves and make careful decisions on their own.
But eventually, kids grow up and become teens. It’s totally normal for teens to create their own opinions, thoughts, and values about life; it’s what prepares them for adulthood. But as you change and grow into this new person who makes his or her own decisions, your parents may have a difficult time adjusting themselves to it.
In most families, it’s this adjustment that can cause a lot of fighting between teens and parents. Teens get angry because they feel parents don’t respect them and aren’t giving them space to do what they like, and parents get angry because they aren’t used to not being in control or they disagree with the teens’ decisions.
It’s easy for feelings to get very hurt when there are conflicts like these. And more complicated issues can cause even bigger arguments, because your parents will always be intent on protecting you and keeping you safe, no matter how old you are.
The good news about fighting with your parents is that in many families the arguing will lessen as parents get more comfortable with the idea that their teens have a right to certain opinions. It can take several years for parents and teens to adjust to their new roles, though. In the meantime, concentrate on communicating with your parents as best you can.
Sometimes this can feel impossible — like they just don’t see your point of view and never will. But talking and expressing your opinions can help you gain more respect from your parents, and you may be able to reach a compromise that makes everyone happy. Keep in mind, too, that your parents were teens once and that in most cases, they can relate to what you’re going through.
1.Why do parents always want to control their children?
| A．They are afraid to lose their children. |
| B．They want to protect their children. |
| C．They don’t believe the ability of their children. |
| D．They can’t accept their children are growing. |
2. What does the underlined word “lessen” in Paragraph 5 probably mean?
| A．disappear. | B．increase. |
| C．strengthen. | D．decrease. |
3.The author suggested that teenagers ____.
| A．fight with their parents bravely for their rights |
| B．obey their parents without any doubt |
| C．communicate with their parents actively |
| D．persuade their parents in as many ways as possible |
4. It can be inferred from the passage that ____.
| A．most parents will give in while fighting with their children |
| B．the conflict between parents and teenagers can be solved |
| C．the only way for teens to get freedom is to leave home |
| D．only few parents do well in facing the growth of their children |
高三英语阅读理解中等难度题查看答案及解析
There are hundreds of things that your parents controlled for you when you were a child．And it’s a good thing, too — kids need this kind of protection and assistance, because they aren’t mature enough to take care of themselves and make careful decisions on their own．
But eventually, kids grow up and become teens．It’s totally normal for teens to create their own opinions, thoughts, and values about life; it’s what prepares them for adulthood．But as you change and grow into this new person who makes his or her own decisions, your parents may have a difficult time adjusting themselves to it．
In most families, it’s this adjustment that can cause a lot of fighting between teens and parents．Teens get angry because they feel parents don’t respect them and aren’t giving them space to do what they like, and parents get angry because they aren’t used to not being in control or they disagree with the teens’ decisions．
It’s easy for feelings to get very hurt when there are conflicts like these．And more complicated issues can cause even bigger arguments, because your parents will always be intent on protecting you and keeping you safe, no matter how old you are．
The good news about fighting with your parents is that in many families the arguing will lessen as parents get more comfortable with the idea that their teens have a right to certain opinions．It can take several years for parents and teens to adjust to their new roles, though．In the meantime, concentrate on communicating with your parents as best you can．
Sometimes this can feel impossible — like they just don’t see your point of view and never will．But talking and expressing your opinions can help you gain more respect from your parents, and you may be able to reach a compromise that makes everyone happy．Keep in mind, too, that your parents were teens once and that in most cases, they can relate to what you’re going through．
1.Why do parents always want to control their children?
| A．They are afraid to lose their children． |
| B．They want to protect their children． |
| C．They don’t believe the ability of their children． |
| D．They can’t accept their children are growing． |
2.The author suggested that teenagers ________．
| A．fight with their parents bravely for their rights |
| B．obey their parents without any doubt |
| C．communicate with their parents actively |
| D．persuade their parents in as many ways as possible |
3.It can be inferred from the passage that ________．
| A．most parents will give in while fighting with their children |
| B．the conflict between parents and teenagers can be solved |
| C．the only way for teens to get freedom is to leave home |
| D．only few parents do well in facing the growth of their children |
高三英语阅读理解中等难度题查看答案及解析
When Regina Spektor moved to the Bronx from Russia as a young child of 9, she could speak no English and her family was so poor that they could afford nothing. Yet she carried with her a love of the piano and music.
"For me, the thing that I loved the most was playing the piano, so when we left Russia I was so afraid I would forget how to play and I would just find a little table and play my pieces," she told "When you spend your life doing something like playing the piano and then you take that away, it's so surreal."(离奇的)
Her father, Ilya Spektor, said that, little by little, the family saved enough money to afford their first apartment.
"I was a photographer and, in six weeks, I found my first job in a big photo lab in Manhattan," he said. On the subway one day, Ilya Spektor spotted a man carrying a violin case. The man also seemed to have an Eastern European accent. A conversation led to a visit and, eventually, Regina Spektor was introduced to Sonia Vargas, a piano teacher. She was a well-known professor who taught piano, took Spektor under her wing and trained her for years, at no cost. "I remember talking to Sonia," Spektor said. "She said that when a student is ready, a teacher appears. So she said that I must have been ready to study piano, and so that's why she came into my life."
"Immediately, how she played," Vargas said. "You can tell the sound. The sound tell you whether the person loves the instrument, loves the music."
Much later, while playing her own music and selling a CD that she'd created, Regina Spektor caught the attention of a music producer. The rest is history, complete with concerts around the world and performance in front of the Obamas at the White House.
Regina Spektor greatly appreciated her parents, piano teachers and friends for helping her become the musician she is. “I love the idea that if you’re walking toward the world, the world will take some steps towards you,” she said.
1.When Regina Spektor was in Russia, she _________.
A. spoke English very fluently B. could afford a new piano
C. learned how to play the piano D. was directed by a famous teacher
2.Why could Ilya Spektor make the acquaintance of Sonia Vargas?
A. Sonia Vargas was very famous. B. They were all Russians.
C. They had a common friend. D. Ilya Spektor was a good talker.
3.What does the author mainly want to tell us?
A. The world welcomes any musician.
B. Life is filled with struggles more than love.
C. Regina Spektor deserves to perform at the White House.
D. The world doesn’t ignore those who fight for their dreams.
高三英语阅读理解中等难度题查看答案及解析
When your child lies to you, it hurts. As parents, it makes us angry and we take it personally. We feel like we can never trust our child again. Why does lying cause such anger, pain and worry for parents?
Parents are understandably very afraid of their children getting hurt and getting into trouble, but they have very little protection against these things as they send their kids out into the word. Kids learn from other kids and from external media, and this makes parents feel unsafe because they can’t control the information and ideas that their children are exposed to.
When your kid lies, you start to see him as “sneaky（卑鄙的）”, especially if he continues to lie to you. You feel that he’s going behind your back. You begin to think that your kids are “bad”. Because, certainly, if lying is bad, liars are bad. It’s just that simple. Parents need to make their kids responsible for lying. But the mistake parents make is that they start to blame the kid for lying. It’s considered immoral to lie. But when you look at your kid like he’s a sneak, it’s a slippery slope （滑坡谬误）that starts with “You lie” and ends up at “You’re a bad person”.
Kids know lying is forbidden. But they don’t see it as hurtful. So a kid will say, “I know it’s wrong that I eat a sugar snack when I’m not supposed to. But who does it hurt?” “I know it’s wrong that I trade my dried fruit for a Twinkie. But it doesn’t really hurt anybody. I can handle it. What’s the big deal?” That’s what the kid sees.
So I think that parents have to assume that kids are going to tell them lies, because they’re immature and they don’t understand how hurtful these things are. They’re all drawn to excitement, and they’ll all have a tendency to distort(歪曲) the truth because they’re kids.
1.Why do parents worry about their kids and feel unsafe?
A. Nobody trusts their kids in the world because of lying.
B. Lying always causes their kids to get hurt or get into trouble.
C. Their kids are exposed to outside world without their control.
D. They can’t protect their kids from other kids and external media.
2.What’s the author’s attitude towards parents’ seeing kids as bad if they lie?
A. Immoral. B. Negative.
C. Supportive. D. Different.
3.The underlined word “they” really refers to ________.
A. parents B. their children
C. other kids D. bad things
4.How do parents react to kids’ lying?
A. Taking no notice of it.
B. Blaming them immediately.
C. Pretending to be angry and educate them.
D. Accept it but make them responsible for it.
高三英语阅读理解困难题查看答案及解析
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2.The author thinks you should choose the college that is__________.
A．well-equipped B．competitive C．famous D．suitable
3.What does the author advise you to do to pay the high cost college?
A．To ask the family for help.
B．To get to know how to ask for financial aid.
C．To do research on the price of college
D．To make a study of financial courses.
4.What’s the author’s purpose of writing this text?
A．To make Johnson Review popular.
B．To help readers find the right college.
C．To suggest ways to prepare for college learning.
D．To introduce college life.
高三英语阅读理解困难题查看答案及解析
The more hours young children spend in child care, the more likely they are to turn out aggressive and disobedient by the time they are in kindergarten, according to the largest study of child care and development ever conducted. Researchers said this correlation(相关性) held true regardless of whether the children came from rich or poor homes, were looked after by a relative or at a center, and whether they were girls or boys.
What is uncertain, however, is whether the child care actually causes the problem or whether children likely to turn out aggressive happen to be those who spend more hours in child care. It also remains unclear whether reducing the amount of time in child care will reduce the risk that a child will turn into a mean person. What's more, quality child care is associated with increased skills in intellectual ability such as language and memory, leading some academics to suggest that child care turns out children who are "smart and naughty".
The government-sponsored research, which has tracked more than 1,300 children at 10 sites across the country since 1991, is bound to cause the debate over child care again: How should people balance work and family? And how should parents, especially mothers, resolve the demands that are placed on them to be both breadwinners and supermoms?
That debate was already on display at a new briefing yesterday, where researchers themselves had different opinions about the data and its implications（含义）. "There is a constant relationship between time in care and problem behavior, especially those involving aggression and behavior," said Jay Belsky of Birkbeck College in London, one of the lead investigators of the study who has previously annoyed women's groups because of his criticisms of child care. "On behalf of fathers or mothers?" interrupted Sarah Friedman, a developmental psychologist at the National Institute of Child Health and Human Development (NICHD) and one of the other lead scientists on the study. "On behalf of parents and families," responded Belsky.
"NICHD is not willing to get into policy recommendations," said Friedman, contradicting her colleague. "There are other possibilities that can be entertained. Yes it is a quick solution—more hours in child care is associated with more problems. The easy solution is to cut the number of hours but that may have implications for the family that may not be beneficial for the development of the children in terms of economics." In an interview after the briefing, Friedman said that asking parents to work fewer hours and spend more time with their children usually meant a loss of family income, which adversely（不利地）affects children.
Scientists said that the study was highly reliable. But the researchers said they had no whether the behavioral difficulties persisted as the children moved to higher grades.
1.Children who spend more time in quality child care will ________.
A. develop greater ability in language
B. be easy to manage and less naughty
C. possess great risk-taking spirit
D. be greedy and mean to their classmates
2.What is still unknown about higher level of aggressiveness in kindergarten children?
A. Whether higher level of aggressiveness can be avoided with longer child care.
B. Where longer child care equally affects children from different families.
C. Whether aggressiveness is a direct result of longer child care.
D. Whether longer child care improves intellectual ability in children.
3.In the fifth paragraph the word "it" probably mean “________”.
A. NICHD is unwilling to give parents recomme ndations
B. NICHD is willing to give policy advice concerning child care
C. the number of hours in child care should be reduced significantly
D. parents should discipline the behavior of their children more strictly
高三英语阅读理解中等难度题查看答案及解析
The more hours that young children spend in child care, the more likely they are to turn out aggressive and disobedient by the time they are in kindergarten, according to the largest study of child care and development ever conducted. Researchers said this correlation (相关性) held true regardless of whether the children came from rich or poor homes, were looked after by a relative or at a center, and whether they were girls or boys.
What is uncertain, however, is whether the child care actually causes the problem or whether children likely to turn out aggressive happen to be those who spend more hours in child care. It also remains unclear whether reducing the amount of time in child care will reduce the risk that a child will turn into a mean person. What’s more, quality child care is associated with increased skills in intellectual ability such as language and memory, leading some academics to suggest that child care turns out children who are “smart and naughty”.
The government-sponsored research, which has tracked more than 1,300 children at 10 sites across the country since 1991, is bound to cause the debate over child care again: How should people balance work and family? And how should parents, especially mothers. Resolve the demands that are placed on them to be both breadwinners and supermoms?
That debate was already on display at a news briefing yesterday, where researchers themselves had different opinions about the data and its implications (含义). “There is a constant relationship between time in care and problem behavior, especially those involving aggression and behavior,” said Jay Belsky of Birkbeck College in London, one of the lead investigators of the study who has previously annoyed women’s groups because of his criticisms of child care. “On behalf of fathers or mothers?” interrupted Sarah Friedman, a developmental psychologist at the National Institute of Child Health and Human Development (NICHD) and one of the other lead scientists on the study. “On behalf of parents and families,” responded Belsky.
“NICHD is not willing to get into policy recommendations.” said Friedman, contradicting her colleague. “There are other possibilities that can be entertained. Yes it is a quick solution—more hours in child care is associated with more problems. The easy solution is to cut the number of hours but that may have implications for the family that may not be beneficial for the development of the children in terms of economics.” In an interview after the briefing, Friedman said that asking parents to work fewer hours and spend more time with their children usually meant a loss of family income, which adversely(不利地) affects children.
Scientists said that the study was highly reliable. But the researchers said they had no idea whether the behavioral difficulties persisted as the children moved to higher grades.
1.Children who spend more time in quality child care will ________.
A. develop greater ability in language B. be easy to manage and less naughty
C. possess great risk-taking spirit D. be greedy and mean to their classmates
2.What is still unknown about higher level of aggressiveness in kindergarten children?
A. Whether higher level of aggressiveness can be avoided with longer child care.
B. Where longer child care equally affects children from different families.
C. Whether aggressiveness is a direct result of longer child care.
D. Whether longer child care improves intellectual ability in children.
3.In the fifth paragraph the word “it” probably means ________.
A. NICHD is unwilling to give parents recommendations
B. NICHD is willing to give policy advice concerning child care
C. the number of hours in child care should be reduced significantly
D. parents should discipline the behavior of their children more strictly
4.According to Friedman, Cutting the number of hours in child care ________.
A. may prevent families from having the necessary financial sources
B. will make families unable to enjoy much of the social benefits
C. will result in subsequent behavioral difficulties in children
D. should be accompanied with the improvement in the quality of child care
高三英语阅读理解困难题查看答案及解析