How do apology languages work? Have you ever ...

How do apology languages work? Have you ever tried to apologize, only to be refused? It may be that you were offering a partial apology in a “language” , that was foreign to your listener．The five languages of apology include:

Apology Language 1: “I am sorry.”

List the hurtful effects of your action．Not “I am sorry if …”, but “I am sorry that…”．You might ask if they want to add any points that you have not recognized.

Apology Language 2:“I was wrong.”

Name your mistake and accept fault．Note that it is easier to say “You are right” than “ I am wrong”, but the latter carries more weight.

Apology Language 3: “ What can I do to make it right?”

How are you now? How shall I make amends(弥补) to you? How can I restore your confidence that I love you— even though I was so hurtful to you?

Apology Language 4: “I’ll try not to do that again.”

Engage in problem-solving．Don’t make excuses for yourself such as, “Well, my day was just so…” Instead, offer what you will change to prevent yourself from putting them in the same bad situation again．

Apology Language 5: “Will you please forgive me?”

Be patient in seeking forgiveness．They may need some time or greater clarification of your input from Apology Languages 1-4.

Finally, your apology may not be accepted, but at least you know that you have been faithful in offering a sincere olive branch of peace.

1.The passage mainly talks about___________

A．5 tips for apologies that work            B．5 ways of refusing apologies

C．the function of apology languages         D．the importance of apology languages

2.According to Paragraph 1, your apology may be refused mainly because________

A．your listeners can’t understand your dialect.

B．your listeners can’t hear what you said clearly.

C．your apology is not sincere.

D．your apology is not expressed well enough.

3.When offering an apology, which of the following does the author prefer?

A．“You are right”                      B．“I am sorry if …”

C.“I was wrong.”                    D．“Well, my day was just so…”

4.In the last paragraph, the author tells us even if your apology may not be accepted, at

least ___________.

A．It’s your fault any more                    B．your mind will be at peace

C．your friend will make peace with you       D．your apology is true to your heart

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What is the woman trying to do?

A. Hold a party for the man. B. Comfort the man. C. Apologize to the man.

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How to apologize properly is much more difficult than we think. Provided you want to teach your children to apologize, you must be good at saying sorry yourself, especially to your own children. But how you say it can be quite tricky.

If you say to your children “I’m sorry I got angry with you, but …” what follows that “but” can make the apology ineffective: “I had a bad day” or “your noise was giving me a headache ” leaves the person feeling that he should be apologizing for his bad behavior in expecting an apology.

Another method by which people appear to apologize without actually doing so is to say “I’m sorry you’re upset”; this suggests that you are somehow at fault for allowing yourself to get upset by what the other person has done.

Then there is the general, all covering apology, which avoids the necessity of identifying a specific act that was particularly hurtful or insulting, and which the person who is apologizing should promise never to do again. Saying “I’m useless as a parent” does not make any sense.

These false apologies are used by people who believe saying sorry shows weakness. Parents who wish to teach their children to apologize should see it as a sign of strength, and therefore not voice these false apologies.

But even when presented with examples of really being sorry, children still need help to become aware of the complexities of saying sorry. A three-year-old might need help in understanding that other children feel pain just as he does, and that hitting a playmate over the head with a heavy toy requires an apology. A six-year-old might need reminding that spoiling other children’s expectations can require an apology. A 12-year-old might need to be shown that taking the biscuit without asking permission is acceptable, but that borrowing a parent’s clothes without permission is not.

1. If a mother adds “but” to an apology,________.

A. the child may feel that he owes her an apology

B. she knows that the child has been hurt

C. the child may find the apology easier to accept

D. she feels that she should have apologized

2. According to the author, saying “I’m sorry you’re upset” most probably means “_______”.

A. You have good reason to get upset

B. I apologize for hurting your feelings

C. I’m aware you’re upset , but I’m not to blame

D. I’m at fault for making you upset

3. We learn from the last paragraph that iiS teaching children to say sorry　　

A.    the complexities involved should be ignored

B.    parents need to set them a good example

C.    their ages should be taken into account

D parents should be patient and tolerant

4.It can be inferred from the passage that apologizing properly is

A.    to say sorry in a general way

B.    a way to improve your relationships

C.    a sign of social progress and social harmony

D. not as simple as it seems

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—— Have you made an apology       him       breaking his window?

——Yes, I have.

A. for; to         B. to; to          C. for; for         D. to; for

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The wrong you have done to him is terrible, for _____ you should make an apology to him, I think．

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You shouldn’t have been so rude to Dennis, ________you should apologize to him, I suppose.

A.which B.for which C.whom D.for whom

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The wrong you have done to him is terrible，________， in my opinion，you should apologize to him.

A．which　                                 B．that

C．what　                                 D．for which

高三英语单项填空中等难度题查看答案及解析

—You ought to have made an apology to Tom yesterday evening．

—Yes, I know I ____________．

A．ought to have    B．have to          C．should           D．must have

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Have you ever imagined your future？ I try to do this all the time． Most of us will follow in our _______footsteps， by this I mean our adult lives will _______resemble the lives we live as children， set by our parents' examples． Have you ever _______and thought about this？ What an awful job it must be to _______a child properly! But， what happens to the children that live _______drugs， alcohol and violence in their childhood？ Where can they find good examples for themselves？

I know of one place that is trying to_______all children． It is the McDowell County D．A．R．E． program in McDowell County North Carolina． Our teachers carry on their shoulders the great_______of teaching kids to just say NO to drugs， alcohol and violence． I am personally acquainted with _______of these things， not because I have ever_______them myself， but because of my dad． He drank， _______drugs and smoked pot （抽大麻）． When I was 7 my mom took me and my sister and ______． I wonder if my dad ever thought about the _______and what this bad decision would lead to when he first started experimenting with drugs and pot at 13． He has been in jail， he can't get a decent job， and he lost his ______． These bad choices also caused him to hurt his children in horrible ways．

I am _______that I have at least one parent to help me make wise decisions， and to teach me right from wrong． I am also _______that the D．A．R．E． program is taught in our schools． One of the most _______things I learned from D．A．R．E． is that a person that has a parent with an addiction problem is more than twice as likely to become addicted themselves， as compared to a person that has no family history of drug ______． I have learned many things through this ______， especially about the consequences of our trying drugs． You could get arrested， hurt yourself or someone else，_______ your life by becoming an addict， or even die． All of these things are terrible， but I can't think of anything _______as a parent than hurting our children and the people that love us． DRUGS DESTROY LIVES! I give the D．A．R．E． program two thumbs up， for all the good things being accomplished．

1.A. grandma's B. brother's C. parents' D. teachers'

2.A. closely B. loosely C. hardly D. physically

3.A. lived B. stopped C. started D. decided

4.A. praise B. understand C. appreciate D. raise

5.A. on B. over C. in D. for

6.A. treat B. represent C. reach D. persuade

7.A. pressure B. responsibility C. probability D. advantage

8.A. both B. all C. none D. neither

9.A. smoked B. accepted C. tried D. refused

10.A. ate B. sold C. took D. bought

11.A. went B. wept C. begged D. left

12.A. reasons B. possibilities C. program D. consequences

13.A. patience B. temper C. family D. position

14.A. lucky B. aware C. sure D. clear

15.A. concerned B. disappointed C. curious D. grateful

16.A. important B. exciting C. strange D. attractive

17.A. sales B. purchases C. abuse D. production

18.A. behavior B. program C. experience D. action

19.A. destroy B. build C. save D. lose

20.A. wiser B. easier C. worse D. better

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Don’t____________to tell us if you have a problem．We’re friends，aren’t we?

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