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I’ve just got to talk about this problem I’m having with my postman. It all began a year ago, after the birth of his first child. Not wanting to appear rude, I asked him about the baby. The next week, not wanting him to think I had asked out of mere politeness the week before, I asked all about the baby again. Now I can’t break the habit. I freeze whenever I see him coming. The words “How’s the baby?” come out on their own. It holds me up. It holds him up. So why can’t I stop it? The answer is that I want him to like me. Come to think of it, I want everyone to like me.

My sister had the same problem with the caretaker of her block of flats: “All he ever does is complain; he talks at me rather than to me, never listens to a word I say, and yet for some reason I’m always really nice to him. I’m worried in case I have a difficulty one day, and he won’t lift a finger to help.”

What about at work? Richard Lawton, a management trainer, warns: “Those managers who are actually liked by most of their staff are always those to whom being liked is not the primary goal. The qualities that make managers popular are being honest with staff, treating them as human beings and observing common politeness like saying hello in the morning.” To explain the point, Richard mentions the story of the company chairman who desperately wanted to be liked and who, after making one of his managers fired, said with moist (湿润的) eyes that he was so, so sorry the man was leaving. The employee replied: “If you were that sorry, I wouldn’t be leaving.” The lesson being, therefore, that if you try too hard to be liked, people won’t like you.

The experts say it all starts in childhood. “If children feel they can only get love from their parents by being good,” says Zelda West-Meads, a marriage guidance consultant, “they develop low self-confidence and become compulsive givers.” But is there anything wrong in being a giver, the world not being exactly short of takers? Anne Cousins believes there is. “There is a point at which giving becomes unhealthy,” she says. “It comes when you do things for others but feel bad about it.”

I am now trying hard to say to people “I feel uncomfortable about saying this, but…” and tell myself “Refusal of a request does not mean rejection of a person” and I find I can say almost anything to almost anyone.

1.Why does the author ask the postman about his baby?

A．He is interested in the baby.

B．He wants to create a good impression.

C．He wants to be always polite to him.

D．It’s a way to start a chat with great politeness.

2.What could we find out about the author’s sister and the caretaker?

A．She doesn’t want to risk displeasing him.

B．She doesn’t pay attention to him.

C．He often refuses to help her.

D．He is impatient of her overreaction.

3.Managers are more likely to be popular if they ______.

A．help the staff with their problems

B．make sure the staff do not lose their jobs

C．encourage the staff to be polite to each other

D．do not make too much effort to be liked

4.The underlined words, “compulsive givers”, in the fourth paragraph refer to the people who ______.

A．are willing to help others

B．couldn’t bear to turn down requests

C．are unconfident of denying demands

D．are less selfish than takers

5.What is the author’s intention of writing this passage?

A．To show how to let others like you more.

B．To prove how to create a harmonious atmosphere.

C．To encourage people to have more self-confidence.

D．To suggest ways of dealing with difficult people.

高三英语阅读理解中等难度题查看答案及解析

--- Can I have a talk with you at about 5 this afternoon, Mr．Smith?

--- All right, I ______ to my office from a conference then．I will be waiting for you there．

高三英语单项填空简单题查看答案及解析

Do you regularly get together to talk with your family about problems or the day’s events?　 1.　 Want to improve your family's communication skills? Try these simple steps.

Create opportunities for talking.

Make time for talking by reducing the number of unnecessary activities your family is involved in. And if you do find yourself in the car running from place to place, turn off the cell phones, and use that opportunity to catch up on the day’s activities.

2.In addition to bringing everyone together for a wrap-up(总结) of the day’s activities, insist on a few standing family meals. Use the family dinner table as an opportunity to share what’s going on in each other’s lives.

Go on individual dates with your children.

3.　 Older teens might enjoy going out for a hamburger or a coffee at their favorite coffee place. Younger children often enjoy going to the supermarket, especially when you let them select their favorite food.

Listen more and speak less.

When trying to improve any relationship, listening is far more important than talking. It makes kids feel respected. 　 4.

5.　 Children feel comfortable sharing their problems with their parents, reducing the risk of peers(同龄人) having a negative influence on their lives. Parents remain connected with each other and their children, strengthening the family bond. And the whole family develops a communication style that can help improve the quality of relationships outside the home.

A.Insist on family meals.

B.Do you want to understand your children better?

C.Please think twice about what you say before you say it.

D. Spend time with each of your children and let them know that they matter.

E. When it comes to family communication, listen four times longer than you speak.

F. Maintaining positive family communication benefits your family in many ways.

G. Conversation is the key to any strong relationship, but family communication is especially important。

高三英语其他题中等难度题查看答案及解析

– Has the professor’s talk got____ to do with your present research?

– Yes, it has____ to do with my research.

高三英语单项填空困难题查看答案及解析

Have you ever noticed what happens to an idea once you express it? Just talking about it or writing it down causes you to make it clear in your own mind. How can you use this to increase your brain power? Start writing.

By putting thoughts into words，you are telling yourself the logic(逻辑)behind what you think，feel，or only partly understand. Often，explaining a thought is the process of understanding. In other words，you increase your brain power by exercising your “explain power”．

Try this experiment. Explain how you’ll increase your brain power，even if you have no idea how right now. Just start with anything，and create an explanation. For example，start with “I’ll learn chess，” or “I’ll read an article on the mind every week.” Explain how that will help. You’ll be surprised how often this becomes a workable plan，and if you actually do this，you’ll have a better  understanding of your brain twenty minutes from now.

Another benefit of writing is that it helps you remember. Many，if not most，highly productive people are always taking notes. You can try keeping it all in your head，but if you keep a journal of your ideas the next time you’re working on a big project，you’ll probably have more success.

Want to understand a topic? Write a book about it. That’s an extreme example，but if you are learning something new，write a letter to a friend about it，and you will understand it better. Want to invent something? Write an explanation of the problem，why you want to solve it，and why it is worth solving，and you’re half-way there.

Writers don’t always write because they clearly understand something beforehand. Often，they write about something because they want to understand it. You can do the same. Writing will help bring you to an understanding. Give it a try.

1.What would be the best title for the text?

2.According to the text，writing can help you a lot in the following ways EXCEPT ________.

3.The underlined sentence “you’re half-way there” in Paragraph 5 implies that ________.

4.What’s the main purpose of the writer writing the text?

高三英语阅读理解困难题查看答案及解析

Have you ever noticed what happens to an idea once you express it? Just talking about it or writing it down causes you to make it clear in your own mind. How can you use this to increase your brain power? Start writing.

By putting thoughts into words, you are telling yourself the logic (逻辑) behind what you think, feel, or only partly understand. Often, explaining a thought is the process of understanding. In other words, you increase your brain power by exercising your “explain power.”

Try this experiment. Explain how you’ll increase your brain power, even if you have no idea right now. Just start with anything, and create an explanation. For example, start with “I’ll learn chess,” or “I’ll read an article on the mind every week.” Explain how that will help. You’ll be surprised how often this becomes a workable plan, and if you actually do this, you’ll have a better understanding of your brain from now.

Another benefit of writing is that it helps you remember. Many, if not most, highly productive people are always taking notes. You can try keeping it all in your head, but if you keep a journal of your ideas the next time you’re working on a big project, you’ll probably have more success.

Want to understand a topic? Write a book about it. That’s an extreme example, but if you are learning something new, write a letter to a friend about it, and you will understand it better. Want to invent something? Write an explanation of the problem, why you want to solve it, and why it is worth solving, and you’re half-way there.

Writers don’t always write because they clearly understand something beforehand. Often, they write about something because they want to understand it. You can do the same. Writing will help bring you to an understanding. Give it a try.

1.What would be the best title for the text?

A. A Way on How to Write.

B. Increase Your Brain Power through Writing.

C. Brain Power Helps Improve Your Writing.

D. How to Start Your Writing.

2.According to the text, writing can help you a lot in the following ways EXCEPT ______.

A. the increase of your brain power

B. the ability to remember

C. the development of your interest in study

D. the better understanding of a topic

3. If a writer writes something, it means that he or she ______.

A. has understood it very well

B. needs to understand it better

C. wants to remember it in his or her mind

D. is exercising his or her “explain power”

4.The underlined sentence “you’re half-way there” in the fifth paragraph implies

that ______.

A. you are already successful

B. you still need to work hard

C. writing can help you walk half way

D. writing is important to solve problems

5. What’s the main purpose of the writer writing the text?

A. To advise readers to start their writing.

B. To explain the importance of writing.

C. To persuade readers to become writers.

D. To increase readers’ brain power.

高三英语阅读理解中等难度题查看答案及解析

—What should you do if you have problems with your life?

—          .

A．To find a friend to talk                    B．Find a friend to talk to

C．Finding a friend to talk to                  D．Found a friend to talk

高三英语单项填空中等难度题查看答案及解析

I think he's just going to deal with this problem ________ day.

A. next              B. other                C. following            D. another

高三英语单项填空中等难度题查看答案及解析

It might be early to talk about potential ________ colors for next summer when we have just entered autumn, but the fashion world can't wait that long.

A. trendy　　 B. worthy　　 C. hearty　　 D. touchy

高三英语单项填空困难题查看答案及解析

I had just got up and was about to cook my breakfast ___the telephone rang loudly, but it hung up __I could answer it .

高三英语单项填空中等难度题查看答案及解析